SHABBY BUT DOCILE ,PRETTY BUT HOSTILE

ZOVAL TA ZEIVAL

( Shabby but docile pretty but hostile ) 

Our neighbour  Sondhar Dydh's son divorced his first wife and married for the second time.  One day ,Sondhar Dydh  said this to my mother( Kaaki )  :

" Hatai Kaaki , kyah vanai Zeivili khota aassim Zoval jaan. Yemiss raantus  balaai chhass na poshaan" 

"  Kaaki,  that shabby but docile daughter in law was better than this good looking but aggressive girl.  I can't deal with this  witch." 

 In Kashmiri Zov means lice and Zoval  means a woman with lice in her hair or shabby . Similarly Zeiv means tongue and Zeival means a woman who confronts and  uses her tongue aggressively . I have heard many elderly Kashmiri woman saying, " Zeivili Khota  Zoval  jaan ( a docile girl with lice in her head is better than a good looking who hits all with her words )  

With spread of nuclear families ,  education and  women empowerment, this phrase used by our elderly women  is extinct now. 

( Avtar Mota)

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