APPLYING OWNERSHIP TO A RELATION IS THE KEY ISSUE

   

                                                             

OWNERSHIP IS THE KEY  ISSUE 

Sometimes I feel  :

" In love, the real issue is ownership.Applying ownership is also allowing the other person  the freedom to be what he is . Ownership is about recognising that each person's reality and feelings are valid, even if they differ from your own.In a healthy relationship, this sense of ownership brings mutual respect and support .It is the ownership that creates  a willingness to compromise and make sacrifices for the relationship's well-being. It is not  about possessing or controlling another person or his actions.In a relationship, ownership  implies understanding impact of one's spoken  words ,actions, emotions and  conduct  on  the other person . If one understands this simple fact, there comes a willingness to take responsibility for these actions, emotions and conduct .The blame game has no place in such relation  .

Ownership in a relation   brings trust and mutual respect  whereby individual demands become lesser, genuine and  realistic. It is similar to Hydropincs ,a  method in which  plants grow, flourish and bear flowers  without making demands for  soil or peat moss.

Applying ownership on 'as is where is basis'  works wonders. Should a plant own even a stone, it can not stop growing or blooming  .A rock remains a rock, a plant remains a plant  and one notices life , mutual dependence and flowers. 

Ravindra  Jain wrote....

"Boota pathraan  te ugdaa hai pyaar da

 Tainu vaasta hai dil di pukaar da

Le ja le ja sandesha sone yaar da.."

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"A plant of love may even sprout out from a stone ."

Let him be assured   about this sincere cry of the heart , 

Carry this message to that loveable friend.)" 

(Avtar Mota)

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It is a random feeling . The reader is at liberty to agree with this feeling or disagree altogether. 

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